It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have to right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
— Daniell Koepke (via auberginesheets)
(Source: internal-acceptance-movement, via auberginesheets)
I have to go back to school today and I really just want to cry.
bridge to terabithia more like bridge to tearing my fucking soul out
(Source: finchel-4-ever, via lilcheetusburger)
Late night grief.
What we think we want to do and what our hearts want us to do are very different.
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my eighteen years, and I’ve given up a lot of things because I grew out of them or because something else was more important. I believed I had everything figured out, I had my entire future planned, I pushed through my senior year of high school because I believed it would be better when I got to PSU.
But what we think is best and what’s really best are very different.
What we plan and what actually happens are very different.
I may have given up a lot of things but in the end, they all made me a happier person. And maybe this is another one of those hard choices I’ll have to make.
I’ve been wearing sports bras for the past year pretty much every day and I finally was able to buy bras that actually fit over the weekend.
Not only have I grown a cup size, but holy shit, I forgot how real bras make boobs look so much different.
November 30, 2013 at 3:02pm
Anonymous asked: Do what you need to do. Do what your head and your heart is telling you. Do what makes you happy. Be the person you want to be, not the person everyone else wants you to be. You want to look back on your life and say," wow, I'm so glad I did that. I'm glad I'm happy."
It’s so hard when you feel like you’re going to be a disappointment. I don’t want to wake up and realize that I failed.
I hate college and I don’t want to go back. I miss Sheetz and I miss home and I miss being on my own time and schedule and doing my own thing. I feel so lonely at PSU and my anxiety is the worst that it’s been in a long, long time. I feel misplaced and confused and I’ve been lying about my feelings for months and months and in return, everything has gotten worse.
I don’t know what to do.
Vanessa VanDyke has amazing hair. Point blank. But it’s her hair that may cause her to get expelled from school. Faith Christian Academy in Orlando told the 12-year-old that she has a week to decide if she’s going to cut her hair, straighten it, or get kicked out.
Vanessa has attended Faith Christian Academy since she was in the third grade, but the school’s s code has rules against how students can wear their hair. The handbook reads: “Hair must be a natural color and must not be a distraction,” and goes on to state examples that include, but are not limited to, mohawks, shaved designs and rat tails.
The distraction that the school is probably referring to when it speaks of Vanessa’s hair has to do with bullying and teasing.
From Local 10 News Orlando:
“A distraction to one person is not a distraction to another,” said VanDyke’s mother, Sabrina Kent. “You can have a kid come in with pimples on his face. Are you going to call that a distraction?”
VanDyke said she’s had her large, natural hair all year long, but it only became an issue after the family complained about students teasing her about her hair.
“There have been bullies in the school,” said Kent. “There have been people teasing her about her hair, and it seems to me that they’re blaming her.”
“I’m depressed about leaving my friends and people that I’ve known for a while, but I’d rather have that than the principals and administrators picking on me and saying that I should change my hair,” said VanDyke.
So instead of Faith Christian Academy doing something about the bullies, they’re going to reprimand a 12-year-old because of her hair?
“I’m going to fight for my daughter,” Kent said. “If she wants her hair like that, she will keep her hair like that. There are people out there who may think that natural hair is not appropriate. She is beautiful the way she is.”
it’s hard enough for black girls to feel beautiful without those in authority sending the message that their hair is unacceptable. this story is disgusting and unfortunately not the first or last case. it’s a damn shame that every part of a black girl’s body is politicized, at all ages
this is so stupid …
I’m so proud of her mother.
I signed the petition. I called the school and left a message. I am not playing. And yall shouldn’t either. Sign it here: http://www.change.org/petitions/faith-christian-academy-confront-guilty-students-for-bullying-not-fault-victims-for-wearing-their-hair-in-its-natural-state?share_id=IYDUMdeZVj&utm_campaign=signature_receipt&utm_medium=email&utm_source=share_petition
Reposting again for the cheap seats in the back. Let’s do something!
BOOST! take 5 seconds and sign this!
signed, and re-reblogging for the petition
Anonymous asked: What's so bad about periods
- Blood comes out of your vagina for anywhere from 3-7 days
- That blood you lose can be around 4 tablespoons to a cup
- a cup of blood, vaginal mucus, and endometrial tissue
- You get cramps that will make you cry. You can vomit and/or pass out from them
- You will get horrible mood swings
- You get headaches
- Your breasts hurt so bad sometimes you can’t even touch them
- You get acne everywhere
- Your actual vagina could be sore
- Your feel constantly tired
- You have a constant fear of soaking through your pad/tampon
- You can’t lay a certain way in bed
- You take pill after pill and it still doesn’t help
- You bloat and gain weight
- You might have anemia (iron deficiency) which can not clot your blood causing so much blood loss it’ll be deadly
- You never feel full
- Everything irritates you
- You will cry a lot
- Once you get up in the morning, your center of gravity has shifted and all the blood settling in you during the night will now rush out of you causing you to clench your legs tightly to avoid leaking
- You get made fun of for having a period ?////?/?/
- You’re forced to go to school/work
- You get told that you’re overreacting
but ya know, fixing your dick discreetly in public is bad too
This is everything.
A strong man can handle a strong woman. A weak man will say she has an attitude.
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